I Depend On God Not Charm For A Successful Operation Cos I'm Born Again - Robbery Suspect

Twenty-seven-yearold Akin Ayotunde is one of those robbery suspects, who used to dispossess people of their valuables at gun point, but earnestly believes in God. In other words, he could be described as a ‘born again’ Christian armed robber.

According to him, it was because of his fervent belief in God that he doesn’t patronise herbalists or use charms during robbery operations like his colleagues.

He said that God has never failed to assist and help him out of difficult situations. Ayotunde, who was arrested by detectives attached to the Special Anti-Robbery Squad (SARS), Ikeja, Lagos State Police Command, said he was quite sure; God would aid his release this time again. His words: “I was caught by police because I don’t believe in using charms during robbery operations. The fact is that I believe in God. I believe God can save me.”

The police said that Ayotunde, together with his gang members, attacked and robbed an apartment at Igbogbo, Ikorodu area of Lagos State, where they allegedly killed the head of the family.

The suspects said that they raided the freezer of the victim, found food, ate and watched television before beginning their operation. Ayotunde, while insisting they didn’t touch the victim, explained that they forced him to sit down on a chair and watch them, while his wife and children were ordered to lie facedown.

He said that after they were through with the operation, they discovered that the man had fallen asleep. When they attempted to wake him, they discovered he was stiff and cold. His words: “We wanted to lock the man in the room with his wife before we left, so that he wouldn’t be able to call for help.

When we tried to get him to stand, we noticed he was stiff. I placed my ear to his heart and discovered it wasn’t beating. We never robbed him with the intention of causing his death. I had no reason to kill him. I had, already gotten all I wanted from him.”

The four-man-gang’s waterloo, however, started after the gang robbed the home of one Bello Hakeem, residing at Igbe area, Ikorodu, Lagos. Hakeem’s house was attacked by the gang just days after the gang members robbed the house where a victim died. Ayotunde said that the gang operated for six hours without distraction in Hakeem’s home.

They carted away a lot of valuables from the victim’s house, including his Toyota Corolla car. Ayotunde was attempting to sell the car when he was arrested. Ayotunde, who lives in Ikorodu, was alleged by investigators to have once been arrested for robbery. Police said: “He was once arrested for robbery.

He used to gain access into people’s compound by scaling fences. Once he’s inside, he would switch off the generator and wait for someone to step out, to check why the generator went off. Once the person steps out, he and his gang members would attack and rob the person.”

Singing like a bird, Ayotunde confessed to have robbed three houses within a year. But detectives believe he has robbed more houses than what he claimed. He said that he used to work as a construction worker, earning N1,300 daily, before the attraction to crime. Ayotunde added: “I went into robbery to raise enough money to start a legitimate business.



There was no plan in my heart to make robbery a permanent job. I was arrested last month at Ojota, Lagos State, after my gang members and I robbed a man of his Toyota Corolla car. We also took some of the valuables in his house. After the robbery, we went to meet our friend, Eyinejo.

“Eyinejo used to sell stolen cars for us. I gave Eyinejo the man’s car key. He promised to assist in selling the car. He said the sharing formula would be 50-50 after the sale, I agreed.

Before nightfall, Eyinejo called and told me to come and pick the car. He said that one of the persons that wanted to buy the car said he knew the real owner of the car.” The following day, the same buyer called again. According to the buyer, he wasn’t sure he recognised the car as he previously stated. The buyer accepted to buy the car.

He paid N700, 000. Ayotunde said: “Eyinejo called to tell me that he sold the car for N700,000. He said I should come to Ojota, to collect my share of the money. I hailed a motorbike and raced to meet him at a restaurant in Ojota. While we were discussing, I noticed his eyes were bloodshot. I should have become alert, but I didn’t dwell on it.

We were still discussing when three policemen walked into the restaurant, pointed a gun at me and took me to their station.” He said he was still battling to extricate himself from the robbery charges, when the widow of the man, who died at Igbogbo, while Ayotunde’s gang was operating in their home, came to the police station and identified him. Ayotunde admitted robbing the widow’s home, but vehemently denied killing her husband.

His words: “We didn’t kill the man! All I can say is that the man was either already sick or died of shock. A man named Paul Oriyii took us to the man’s house at Igbogbo, Ikorodu.

We entered his home by scaling the fence. We entered the compound around 10pm and left at about 3am. We didn’t go with any gun, just machetes, which we used in threatening the man. We threatened to kill him, but we didn’t mean it. “When we entered, the man’s wife and three children were in the parlour, watching a movie. We ordered them to lie on the ground.

We later marched them into their rooms. The man stayed in the parlour with us. We didn’t rape the woman or her daughters.” Ayotunde further recalled: “We took some food from the fridge, ate and started watching television. During that period, the man started snoring.

When it was time to leave, we ransacked the house in search of things we could sell like Plasma

Photos: More women join Borno state Civilian Joint Taskforce to fight Boko Haram

This is quite commendable. More women are joining the Borno state joint taskforce. Kudos to them. 

 

Throwback photo of Pres. Buhari as a military officer during the civil war

Photo of President Buhari as a military officer during the civil war which lasted from 1967 to 1970

Photos: Emir of Knao meets Pope Francis in Italy

Emir of Kano Muhammadu Sanusi II met with Pope Francis yesterday in Assisi, Italy, during the final meeting of the World Day of Prayer for Peace where over 400 religious leaders from around the world gathered to pray for world peace.

Saraki defends his suggestion that FG should sell national assets to revive the economy

Senate President this morning released some of his recommendations on what the Federal govt needs to do to immediately get out of the present economic recession. Part of his recommendations is for some of the national assets should be sold off. Many Nigerians feel this is not a good move and should not be accepted.

Defending his suggestion, Saraki said it would be better for Nigeria to sell off her assets than borrow money from the International community. See the reactions from Nigerians and Saraki's defense after the cut...

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MUST READ!!! 6 Best ways to avoid been friendzoned by any lady

THE FEMALE POINT OF VIEW : The Mysterious Case Of Friend-Zone.

It starts as it always does. You meet a cute girl and start hanging out together. She likes talking with you, she is laughing at your jokes, and you think that she might be into you, but you’re too afraid to make a move. Time goes by and you’re still only friends. Finally you decide that it’s now or never. You reveal your feelings. Then she delivers that oh-so-familiar line: “Let’s just be friends.”
Ok, friendship is great, but is not what you want from this pretty girl you can’t stop thinking about! Unfortunately, this is not the first time this has happened. Sometimes you feel afraid to make a move, because you already feel that you are already in the “Friend Zone.” How to get out of the friend zone and why are the girls you like always the ones that just want to be friends?
From my observations, I can say that there are 2 reasons why women friend-zone men:

FIRST SCENARIO. (Unfortunate but not hopeless): She’s Not Into You.

It’s nobody’s fault. Like men, women have their own preferences. Believe me, most of the times a woman’s idea of the ‘perfect man’ is surprising even to her closest friends!

You can be the cutest guy on earth, smart, funny, with a good-paying job, and even be extremely attractive to other women, but sometimes THAT GIRL IS JUST NOT INTO YOU. She might be flattered that you are flirting with her and she may even respond to your attention in a flirtatious way. If she is flirting, but only wants to stay friends, she probably just enjoys male attention. If you are not completely her type, she probably won’t go and take your relationship to the “next level.” You might seem nice, intelligent, and funny to her, but are simply not attractive enough. Sounds tough, I know. Fortunately, there are some tricks I will share with you that can use to change her mind.

First, some examples: My best friend is a totally gorgeous girl. She’s intelligent, has an amazing smile and long legs. She really could have any guy! But she was friend-zoning almost every man who approached her. Sometimes there were really hot guys showing interest in her, but she still wasn’t interested in any of them. The reason was simple: she liked only dark-skinned, muscular guys. Whenever cute guys with a different kind of look approached her, she would be friendly – she would flash her big smile and bat her eyelashes, but she never went beyond that. She wouldn’t compromise her tastes in a guy that didn’t match her type.

If you are physically or mentally the opposite of her type, – for example, you are a cute, but quite short man, and she happens to like tall ‘Viking type’ guys – I am sorry, it more than likely will not work out. If you are bartender and she is into guys that work in finance or at fancy consultancy firms, it will be very difficult to get this girl. This could happen for any number of reasons: You are obviously a playboy and she likes decent, shy guys. You are an accountant but she is only interested in artsy types.. That doesn’t mean there aren’t any exceptions, but usually if you are not her type, it will be changing her mind no matter what you do.

Perhaps you feel that this is not the case? Did she used to date guys similar to you, and could she be into you, but there is something you are always doing wrong?

SECOND SCENARIO. You are doing something wrong, which made her begin to think of you only as a friend.

If this is the case, then there is good news. It’s possible to change her mind and I am going to tell you how.

You can change her mind with these six easy steps:

1) Keep your cool and accept the situation

Don’t beg for her to give you a chance, EVER. She made a conscious decision to not be anything more than friends with you. You must play with the irrational, illogical side of her personality. You’ll do much better if you start putting less focus on her and more focus on you.

2) Focus on self-improvement

Nobody is perfect, so there is always a huge amount of room for improvement. It gives us hope as well, right? Start looking your best. Go to the gym and keep up a healthy diet. Also, don’t forget about the intellectual side of things. Try to be a hot and interesting person. If you feel more confident about yourself, she will probably notice it. Girls love self-confidence and after all, the special girl you want is just a another girl.

3) Spend time with her doing regular things

No candles, dinner, watching sunset, listening to CD’s at your place, etc. Just invite her out to do “friendly” things with you. After all, this is exactly what she wanted, right? Go out and do the things you would do yourself anyway, like going out to buy new clothes and stuff like that. Shopping is actually a good idea for 2 reasons. She will be happy to help you and you will have a good opportunity to ‘accidentally’ show her some of your finely worked out body (see number 2).

Every situation that leaves some space for physical contact that leaves her thinking about you are helpful in this situation. Always try to emphasize your sexuality, but in a very polite, seemingly unconscious way.

4) Hang out with other people and have fun

A little dose of jealousy never hurt anyone. It’s like fueling her fire with desire. Without a little portion of it, any relationship can get boring, so flirt with other women! A lot. You can be the perfect guy, but she can’t know that she ‘has’ you. Ever.

Even If you have revealed your feelings to her directly or you have made it obvious to her, you should try to attract other women too! You will become more valuable in the mind of the girl you actually want. A twinge of jealousy that comes from knowing other people find you attractive is priceless.

The old adage ‘never put all your eggs in one basket’ is very true, so take advantage of it. Start meeting other people. It will get her curious, but also help you get some practice flirting. The more women you meet, the better you become at playing the game and getting the girl you want.

5) Finally, the difficult part, which probably you are doing wrong: flirting

Never forget the importance of sexual attraction. Of course, it’s less significant of an issue for women than for men, but after all, we have certain needs. Start teasing her and giving her compliments, but avoid elaborate, sophisticated ones. For example, perfume is a safe subject. If she chooses to wear perfume, it means she liked the scent, so it’s safe. It’s also a very sensual compliment. Always avoid teasing or discussing her age or weight. It can only go wrong.

6) Use sensual tricks

Touch her from time to time. I don’t mean grab her ass. I’m talking about touching her arm casually. I know it’s difficult for shy people, but if you play it cool, almost as though it’s accidental, it can work. But always pay attention to how she responds. Moderation is the best solution for everything.

All in all, you have to be a great observer. Pay attention to her and see if her attitude towards you has changed. If you see that she looks at you differently, touches you sometimes, starts flirting with you herself, notices that you work out, gets jealous when you are flirting with another woman, then these are all good signs! She will probably not make a move, so you must make it yourself. But she will give you hints to encourage you to kiss her or ask for a date.

The last resort: Leverage the friendship

If everything fails, accept the friendship with your crush. Try to banish your romantic feelings for her as much as you can and focus on being a good friend – and stand by your decision. That way you are “just” a friend by YOUR own choice, but by hers.
You might think “Why would I do that, I really want to be more than just friends with her”. If you she absolutely, positively and no circumstances reciprocates your feelings, you just have to move on… and capitalize on the opportunity to hook up with one of her friends!

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Nigerian man charged with the murder of Congolese woman and her nephew in the UK

A Nigerian man has been charged with murder following the deaths of a woman and her nephew in East Finchley, Metropolitan Police UK, said.

Obina Ezeoke, of no fixed address was on Tuesday, 20 September, charged with two counts of murder following the deaths of Annie Besala Ekofo, and her nephew, Bervil Kalikaka-Ekofo in East Finchley. 

 

He will appear in custody at Hendon Magistrates' Court on Wednesday, 21 September. A 20-year-old man remains on bail until a date in late October.

Mother of nine, Ekofo and her nephew Bervil Kalikaka-Ekofo, 21, were shot dead in her home on Elmhurst Crescent in Finchley in the early hours of Thursday morning,September 15th, by five gunmen who smashed down the front door and burst into their flat. Ekofo died in a hail of bullets before her nephew was shot in the head as he slept on a couch in what is thought to be a tragic case of mistaken identity.

 

Both were pronounced dead at the scene. Four other people, including a child, were also in the house when the pair were gunned down but were not hurt. A post-mortem into the death of Mr Kalikaka-Ekofo at Northwick Park Hospital Mortuary yesterday revealed he died from a gunshot wound to the head.

Her husband Jean-Pierre is understood to have been take to a psychiatric unit where he is being treated for trauma after witnessing the horrifying dawn assassination.

Mr Kalikaka-Ekofo’s mother Maymie Botaba Chantelle revealed that her son was studying psychology at the University of West London. In a tribute she said:

"His character and soul was beyond comparison, and it goes without a doubt that he will be truly and deeply missed by his family."

A statement released by Mrs Besala Ekofo’s family described the mother of nine as the glue that kept everyone together and a comforting voice in the hardest situations.

Source: Metropolitan Police /Evening Standard

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Ciara Shares Cute Photo Of Her Son’s First Day In School

The Hip Hop Singer and mother of one shared this cute photo of her son, Future Zahir Wilburn first day in school.

10 Popular Celebrities Who Live With Severe Diseases

Here are 10 Popular American Celebrities who lives with Severe diseases.
See below:-
10. Kim Kardashian (Psoriasis)

 

No, even Kim Kardashian isn’t perfect.
This television personality has psoriasis, although I don’t think she’s very fond of publicizing that fact, and has become quite adept at concealing her dermatological condition.
9. Tom Hanks (Diabetes)

 

Whether you love Tom Hanks as Forrest Gump or the FedEx employee in Cast Away who bonds with a volleyball, this actor is known and adored by all.
But even with a net worth of $350 million, this celeb still deals with type-2 diabetes along with millions of other Americans.
8. Halle Berry (Diabetes)

  Who doesn’t like Halle Berry? The actress and former model has been commended for successfully balancing short, manageable, and s.exy hair.
7. Lil Wayne (Epilepsy)

 

Despite often addressing himself as “Weezy,” hit rapper Lil Wayne does not have asthma.
The artist behind popular songs such as “Lollipop,” “Mr. Carter,” “A Milli,” “6 Foot 7 Foot” and others has epilepsy, suffering from severe seizures, which he has spoken about publicly on occasion
6. Kareem Abdul-Jabbar (Leukemia)

 

Another Laker legend, six-time NBA Champion Kareem Abdul-Jabbar is known by basketball fans worldwide for his renowned sky-hook.
The 7’2″ Abdul-Jabbar is also an actor and best-selling author, but may not be quite as well known for his leukemia
 5. Selena Gomez (Lupus)

 22-year-old Selena Gomez is yet another singer living with the auto-immune disease lupus.
4. Nick Cannon (Lupus)

Actor, rapper, comedian, show host, entrepreneur; Nick Cannon’s list of professional pursuits goes on and on. Is there anything this guy can’t do? And with lupus, no less! Pretty impressive, if you ask me.
3. Magic Johnson (HIV)

 

While this former basketball legend was hailed for his unique ability to play every position in the game, his seeming untouchability on the court couldn’t prevent him from contracting HIV.
Since he tested positive for the virus, our old crony Magic has been a major advocate for HIV testing and a strong supporter in the efforts to find a cure.
2. Missy Elliot (Graves Disease)

 

 While most people remember Missy Elliot from the 2004 hit single “1,2 Step” , few people are aware of the fact that Missy has Graves Disease, an autoimmune disorder that causes hyperthyroidism.

1. Charlie Cheen (HIV)

Charlie Sheen, a cast member in “Scary Movie V,” poses at the Los Angeles premiere of the film at the Cinerama Dome in Los Angeles. Sheen was sued in Los Angeles Friday, Oct. 3, 2014, by a dental technician who claims the actor punched her in the chest and was abusive during an office visit in late September. (Photo by Chris Pizzello/Invision/AP, file)
The ”Two and a Half Men” Actor Charlie Sheen announced on Nov. 17, 2015, that he is HIV-positive. The actor revealed he was diagnosed about four years earlier. “It’s a hard three letters to absorb. It’s a turning point in one’s life,” Sheen said.
 

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"'It will never be well with you!" Heartbroken Nigerian lady cries after she found out via IG that her fiance married another woman (see tweets)

A Nigerian woman who goes by the name Shalom Miriam Shehu from Borno State is heartbroken after she found out this morning that her fiance of 3 years, a man named Taiwo, got married to another woman last weekend. She disclosed this in a series of tweets moments ago...see that after the cut...

 

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Lagos Police Nab Grandma & Father After Boy Drowned In Drum Of Water (Photo)

A two-year-old boy, Eniola Ajakaye, lost his life, drowned inside a drum of water while holidaying with his grandmother in Aboru, in the Iyana Ipaja area of Lagos State.

PUNCH Metro learnt that the police arrested the victim’s father, Sunday Ajakaye, a mechanic, and Sunday’s 65-year-old mother, after the boy’s mother, Mary, accused them of complicity in the death.

They were reportedly detained at the Oke Odo Police Division for alleged murder.

A resident, who spoke on condition of anonymity, said Eniola drowned around 2pm on Foursquare
Street, Ago 40 Estate, where his grandma lived.

He said,
“The woman had gone out for a church programme, leaving him with some other children who had come to holiday with her.
“She was called on the telephone that the boy was missing. People searched for him for hours without any success.
“When it was evening, a woman said she saw something inside a water drum in the house.
“When they checked the drum, they found Eniola there.”
The boy was reportedly taken to a private hospital in the area where he was confirmed dead.

Another resident, Jide Thompson, said the family took the dead child back to the house and invited some pastors to bring him back to life, adding that all the effort was in vain.

It was learnt that Mary’s family did not believe the account of the grandmother as they insisted that there was more to the death than meet the eye, adding that the Ajakaye family had a case to answer.

The police subsequently arrested the grandma, Sunday and another relative who reportedly raised the alarm when the boy went missing.

Investigation by Punch's correspondent showed that there had been bad blood between the two families since Mary became pregnant with Eniola.

Their correspondent learnt from a source that Sunday had rejected Eniola’s pregnancy.

He said,
“The man is a mechanic and can barely fend for himself. When Mary, his lover, became pregnant, he rejected the pregnancy.
“When Eniola was born, Sunday’s mother took the responsibility for his upkeep and was always sending money to Mary’s family.”
The source explained that the grandma later took custody of the child after a major disagreement, adding that Mary returned some weeks later to take back the child.
“However, Mary called the woman one day, saying she was returning Eniola to the grandma.
“The girl took the child to the woman’s church and dropped him there. The grandma picked the child from the church and handed over to the police station,” he added.
The police allegedly called the two families and gave custody of the child to the father.

It was learnt that the grandma handed over the child to her first child, who became his guardian.

PUNCH Metro was told that the guardian had brought him back to the grandma, along with some other children of the family, for holiday when tragedy struck.

A relative told their correspondent that the grandma was devastated when the boy was found in the drum.
“She invited pastors to pray for the child, but nothing happened. When it was getting late, around 10pm, we reported the matter to the police and after making statements, the corpse was deposited in a morgue,” he added.
He explained that after much persuasion Mary’s mother dropped the case against the family.

He, however, expressed surprise that the police were taking up the matter again.

A police source said the police had closed the case file when Mary’s mother demanded that the matter be revived.

The source said,
“The primary issue is that the two families are at loggerheads. After asking that the case be withdrawn, Mary’s mother said her family went to take the boy’s clothes and was told that they had been burnt and there was nothing left of the boy’s property. She said the man’s family knew about the death for being in haste to forget the victim.”
The Police Public Relations Officer, SP Dolapo Badmos, said the boy’s corpse was in the mortuary pending the release of the autopsy report.

She said,
“It is a case of sudden and unnatural death. The two-year-old allegedly drowned inside a drum of water.
“Our operatives visited and photographed the scene. The corpse has been deposited at the Mainland Hospital’s morgue in Yaba for autopsy. The case is under investigation.”  
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Juju Priest Makes Shocking Prophecy About Man Utd Coach, Jose Mourinho

A popular Ghanaian fetish priest, Nana Kwaku Bonsam has made a shocking prophecy against Manchester United Coach, Jose Mourinho if the team is to have a shot at the English Premiership title. According to Bonsam, Mourinho must apologise to Eva Carneiro once more if he wants Manchester United's results to pick up. The pair had a public bust-up during their time together at Chelsea. Mourinho has so far lost at least three games since he took over as Manchester United coach even after acquiring Paul Pogba in a world record £105m fee from Juventus. Bonsam revealed that Mourinho will keep faltering until he apologises again to Carneiro. It would be recalled that in the opening game against Swansea last season, Mourinho slammed Carneiro for rushing onto the pitch to treat Eden Hazard. Carneiro subsequently claimed constructive dismissal against the Blues and also reached a discrimination settlement against Mourinho following the incident.
 "Mourinho has to apologise again to Eva and show remorse since he didn’t show repentance in his earlier apologies to Eva Carneiro," he told Kasapa FM.
"Eva Carneiro possesses a higher spirit which is causing the entire calamities in Jose’s career and has been a curse. "Therefore, if he Mourinho doesn’t take a second look at this it may get to a time he will get fed up and end his career abruptly."
 The Red Devils will look to get back to winning ways in EFL Cup on Wednesday night when Mourinho's men face League One outfit Northampton at Sixfields Stadium.






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TODAY'S BIT:11 Ways To Treating Women Right

(This may be difficult to digest for some of my readers who believe I’m a man, but that’s the marvel of the internet, right? I could be. I could also be a purple unicorn that learned to type with my magical horn on a very large computer keyboard. At least I like to think I am from time to time… I mean, who doesn’t want to be a dexterous purple unicorn?)

1. Be honest.

There is no fancy way to do this. Just. Be. Honest. If you’re into her, then tell her you’re into her. Don’t play that “I’m-trying-to-come-off-cool-and-macho-so-I’m-gonna-play-like-I’m-not-that-interested-so-she-falls-for-me” crap. That shit’s lame. (And let me tell you, any girl that falls into that passive-aggressive play is not in the right state of mind to be in a serious relationship, especially with you.) Stop it. If you’re not that into her, then just be honest! Let her know you’re not as interested as she might be and spare her the run-around of awkward texts you’re trying to avoid sending. Don’t be that guy. Nobody likes that guy.

2. Don’t hide your habits.

We’re not idiots. Porn, cars, video games, beer, sports… It’s not that we have a problem with you liking these things… we have a problem with you trying to do these things behind our backs. Don’t lie about what you’re doing or who you’re doing it with. Follow the first tip. If she has a problem with what you’re doing, ask her why instead of just finding an elaborate way to hide it from her the next time you decide to do it. And to some of our “free-lookers” out there, don’t feed that “you’re the most beautiful girl in the world” line to your girl if you’re the guy that turns his head sideways every time you see a girl walk past with tight jeans on. If you’re a “Barney Stinson”, then own it and let her know. Bullshit begets bullshit, so keep it real. If she doesn’t trust you, then there’s an element already missing in your relationship that you might want to think/talk about.
…this brings me to the next tip on our list…

3. *COMMUNICATE!*

This one gets the special asterisks because this one, I feel, is the MOST important. I can’t stress this one enough. Men have this habit of speaking through a series of grunts, sighs, head nods, or eyebrow raises while their arms are folded over their chest listening to us talk. I’m almost positive there’s not a man out there who enjoys listening to the words, “Are you even listening to me?!” – But there’s a reason she’s asking, guys. We’re not inside your heads, we don’t know what you’re thinking and if you are listening to us, a lot of the times, you’re not showing us any indication it got through. Silence isn’t the answer we want. We want a “yeah, I got you” or “no, I don’t agree with you.” We know YOU don’t want to do anything that’ll trigger “conversation overtime,” but if you didn’t agree with something we said and you held it in… you’re gonna have the same discussion with us again in the future. So save us both some time. Speak up.

4. Don’t be lazy.

No one’s asking you to solve all the world’s problems and be superman, but at least handle your shit. Take care of yourself, manage your money, be responsible at work. Basic. Don’t expect a woman with a perfect body if you have flaws of your own, don’t expect a woman to be independent and make her own money when you don’t have your own, and don’t expect a woman to “put out” for you when you ain’t got the moves yourself. Be who you want to attract. No, she don’t want no scrub.

5. Show Your Appreciation.

So you might not be the best at remembering birthdays or anniversaries, but there are other ways to show you appreciate her. Sometimes, she can be wrapped up in the things that are going on in her life and be so overwhelmed that her laundry’s backed up, or the dishes haven’t gotten to… her dog has been cooped up at the apartment… I’m not saying to become a “man-ny” for her, but doing something as small as taking one item off her to-do list will make her eternally grateful. Show her you appreciate her time by freeing it up for her. By doing that, you’ve got more time to be together, she’s got more energy and hey-oh. Bring on the wine.

6. Be Observant.

It amazes me to this day what little details my husband can pick up from my daily nuances. He has a way of knowing what I need at the end of the night because of things I’ve let him know during the day about how it’s going. I have a pretty stressful day job and most of the time my projects take a long time to complete, so I don’t get to see immediate progress at the end of the day. One night, I was particular stressed out because I felt like as much work as I was putting in, I wasn’t seeing results soon enough. I came home to my husband standing in the kitchen with paint cans, rollers and wine and he told me to pick up a roller and go to town on the walls. Seeing the colors I wanted (because he knows my favorite colors) take over the walls and watching it happen instantaneously completely took away that feeling of not seeing progress. Observe her lifestyle and see what ways you can enrich it for her. It goes a long way.

7. Be Respectful.

We know you have two sides. You have your “bro” side and you have your “boo” side. We don’t mind either of them, but know when it’s appropriate to be one or the other. Communicate with us before you bring us around your friends. We know they might not always be the most “kosher” group. Some girls are totally okay with vulgarity, sports talk and “guys being guys” and some girls aren’t comfortable with it. Know which girl your girl is before you bring out the “bro” and respect both sides, because your friends don’t want to be pegged as assholes, either.

8. Support Her.

No. Not through your bank account. (If she’s looking at you to support her financially without any interest of accumulating her own source of income, it’s probably not the best grounds to start a relationship.) Support her beliefs, her passion, her ambitions… her goals. Be supportive of the things she decides to pursue be it professionally or personally. Don’t diminish what dreams she has even if they’re not reasonable to you. Talk to her if you feel that way, but don’t discourage her. When you’re in a relationship, you protect each other’s integrity, so don’t ever do something that would harm her (or your) reputation— especially when she’s trying to make a mark in her career. You’d want that from her, right?

9. Listen.

This does not mean blankly stare at her until her jaw stops moving. “Hearing” is not the same as “listening.” Yes, we as women like to talk a lot and sometimes, we can get carried away, but if we’re taking the time out of our day to say anything at all to you, there’s a reason. You might have different standards than us as to what’s important or not, but if it’s important to us, then it should be important to you. You want to keep us happy, right? (Translation: you want us to stop talking, right?) Then listen to what we have to say no matter how irrelevant you think it is.

10. Be Romantic… At Least Once in a While.

I said once in a while. Don’t go breaking the bank and trying to ball if you don’t got the guap. That’s just ignorant. Some guys overdo it and some guys couldn’t be romantic if their life depended on it. We’re not expecting puppies and diamonds everyday (and if she is, sit her down and ask her very politely what her priorities are…). We just want to feel desired. Romantic gestures don’t always have to be big. They can be small and sweet. Randomly take her out to where you first met and re-enact your first date on a night she’s feeling down. Upload the newest album from one of her favorite artists on her playlist while she’s away so it’s ready to listen to for her morning commute… And yeah, once in a while, go big. Fill the house with candles and roses and all that other sweet crap, and make it personal. She just wants to know you want her.

11. Make Love.

This can mean more than just sex. I say “make love” and I mean be intimate with her. Know her body, know her mind. Connect with her in a way that’s welcoming, inviting and embracing. Don’t just lock the door and say, “welcome to the jungle, bitch!” (At least not seriously, we all appreciate a good laugh.) Yes, we do like confidence. We like when you can show us your masculinity and that your hard work at the gym’s paid off. But so much of the time, we’re aware that you’re so conscious of trying to be a rock star in bed that you’re not really paying attention to the cues we’re giving you of what we want to feel. Sometimes, we’re shy about what we want, and sometimes, we don’t know what you want. It’s okay to tell us what you like and how you like it. It’ll give us that comfort to know that we can tell you what we want. Sex is supposed to be communicative, mutual, and reciprocating. If you’re in that mindset of “I’m getting mine, I hope you get yours,” then you’re missing out on a whole deeper level that you could both be enjoying a lot more. Don’t be afraid to 

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"Ladies, no matter how attractive you are, being rude and disrespectful is nasty" - singer Niyola

Singer Eniola 'Niyola' Akinbo has a word of advise for Ladies who resort to unattractive means to prove a point. Insisting that Ladies can be confident without having a 'bitchy' attitude, she wrote:

"Ladies, being rude and disrespectful doesn't make you boss or tough ... No matter how attractive you are , it is nasty! You can be confident , assertive and still attractive without being a bitch ! I know some guys take the piss but girl ! Keep it together ! You already have an added advantage just being a woman, tap into that and you ll be A O K !"

Lady Who Sold Noddles & Egg To See Herself And Sister Through School Shares Her Testimony

This is really encouraging and inspiring. A young who sold noodles and egg just to sponsor herself through University and also her sister through secondary school, has been given a reason to smile. Despite the unfavorable condition, Adebayo Oluwatoyin, still graduated with a Second Class Upper (2.1) in Accounting. She shared her inspiring victory story on her Instagram page…



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Felt like yesterday when all I always looked forward to was the long sessional holiday… This is just so I could come home and make money for the next session. I had to find ways to make money because there was little my mum could do to meet all the expenses for me and my sister…
Some people laughed at me, some encouraged me while some invested their change in my business.. I sold noodles and egg, and from the little I made I made sure I saved something every day. At the end of the three months break, I had enough money to pay my sister and my school fees, my house rent and enough money to last me a whole semester.
By the grace of God I have completed my degree with a Second Class Upper in Accounting and right now my sister is waiting for her admission into the university too. Looking back now, it’s my success story because with that kind of hustle, nobody had to run helter skelter to look for money to cater for those expenses. Just right there, mama’s smile revealed her pride in me…

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